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Balls.

Christmas time with no snow is really weird. And I don't like it. It's like... anal sex with a fork... it's just not right. (I assume). I don't really care for the cold and the snow and all that, but December in Wisconsin is supposed to be those things. This 40's and 50's weather, and green(ish) grass and no snow is too strange. I hope we have snow for Christmas and New Years. But I'm cool with an overly mild winder asside from that.

The past is never over

So, lately I have been seeing some things posted on Facebook that have definitely felt like personal attacks at me.
I don't care to say by whom, or go into detail about what was said.
But lets just say that the jest of it is that I am lazy, and entitled, and don't provide for my family because I've chosen to accept state assistance to do so. Apparently this makes me less of a parent, and contributing member of society.

Anyways, I just felt that I needed to get some things off my chest regarding this. And make the very general statement of: you don't really know what you're talking about, so next time, ask first, and bitch later.

It was said by one person something close to they would rather die than feed their family with food bought on food stamps.

Here's the deal, if you knew me when I was younger, you probably still would not know this about me, so I'm going to say it now, listen up.
I grew up in a large family, a family that struggled every damn day for everything that we had, and then some. Because not only did my family struggle to provide for us, we gave to those who were also in dire situations like that too, with open hearts.
My parents REFUSED to go on government assistance when I was a kid. They HAD been on it before I was born, but decided to never go on it again.
I grew up with a huge prejudice against the government programs and those on them.
I also grew up in a family that because of this, struggled to put food on the table, didn't always have a place to live, or know when or where our next meal or place to sleep would be.
I have lived in a tent, a car, a motel, a hotel, a relatives basement, a friends RV in their driveway and so on...
I have BEEN to the bottom of the pits, I have. I have had to hide my shame of those things from family and friends my whole life.
And I am not about to make my children know that pain and suffering.
I had to swallow a huge amount of guilt and pride and suck it up and realize that if I put my kids through that same hell, then what kind of parent am I?
My parents' pride got in the way of them seeing that their kids needed them to be able to just grow up and admit they needed help.
On top of the things already mentioned, when I was 14, I got a job, at minimum wage, which then was $5.15/hour... I worked my ass off, I worked all the overtime I could legally and then some. Both during school, and summer months.
I had to help support my family at 14. With my measly pay. I really did not have a choice when you look at it. I was not stupid. My family needed things, and I had the means to provide them.
I fed and clothed my family, not on my own, but I aided my parents' in doing so. As well as paying for fuel and shelter.
All the while knowing that I would never be repaid. Which was not a concern of mine.
But the part of that which never crossed my mind then, was that all this money that I was supporting my family with at that time, was what should have been saved for now... I did not think of  "tomorrow" when "today" was what needed to be dealt with.
So yes, I made "poor" decisions that led to my having to suck it up and ask for government assistance.
I take full responsibility for that. And I am doing what I know is in my power to better myself to get off of it.
I apply for jobs on almost a daily basis that would pay me better than my current employment.
I look for ways to make extra money in whatever way I can. I do online surveys to try and earn a few bucks. I try to sell things I no longer need, I try to cut back on the things that my family buys.
I try to shop sales... Anything I can to make it work.
If I could find a way to make it work out for me to have another job, or a job with different hours, I would do it.
Especially if it payed better than what I currently have. But I have not found a way to make it work out for me.
I have 2 small children after all, and daycare around here is typically only between 6am and 6pm... and it doesn't work out. And me not getting home till 6am from a 3rd shift job doesn't work out either when I'd be unable to take care of my kids then when I got home because I'd need to sleep when they would be needing me.
SO... once again, ask questions before you bitch, and if you've got all the fucking answers, feel free to share them. I am not simply a lump on a fucking log here Friend. I am doing what I can, I just don't feel the need to broadcast every move I make to the entire world. I am not like that.
I would love to not be on the assistance, believe me I would.
And as for the entitled comment... Damn straight I'm entitled. I am entitled to the hours and shifts that I have busted my ass for at my current job. And until I have found something better, damn straight I'm going to keep those. Besides, there isn't any other shifts available for me to work at my current job anyways.

So there you have it. Yes, I am on government assistance. Yes I have put food on my table bought by food stamps, and taken my child to the doctor with the aid of state health care...
Instead of making my family go hungry, and their medical needs unattended.

And if you think that I am proud of it, or that I don't feel guilty for even so much as going to Culver's for a shake once in a while... you don't know me at all.
You also don't know then that even in the position that I am in, I still go out of my way to help those that I know need help, and to help those that will never know it was me, and to give back in any and every way I can.
I am not a person who is comfortable with being looked upon like a charity case. I am not a charity case.
I am a Mother, who will not allow her children to go through the struggles that I have done my very best to block out of my memory... and because of the way I have been treated lately I can't help but relive all that pain day after day after day... I buried that shit a long fucking time ago, and never wanted to see it again.

The past is never over, it's still there in our memories. Painful, joyful, hurtful. The past is always there.
It's how we treat those around us, those we claim to love, those we call our friends, those who don't know us at all, this is how the past helps shape our tomorrow.
By our actions today.
So, the next time that you (meaning anyone reading this) want to judge someone... how about you eat a nice big helping of some humble fucking pie instead. Try turning those beedy eyes on yourself first.

Diapers and leftovers

So... I have to be honest... I LOVE cloth diapers... And while I had the majority of mine lent out to my friend Sam to give a try, I was having fiendish withdrawals.
No joke.
Aubrielle was suffering from an ongoing yeast rash (since BEFORE we even left the hospital) and had to go on prescription creams to get rid of it.
Oy, that's a whole other story all in it's self right there... But the timing was perfect since Sam was home from work for 2 weeks and was wondering what she was missing with the whole cloth diaper trend going on, and wanted to test them out and see if she'd be willing to go for it.
I'm happy to help. Especially since the timing was perfect.
Couldn't have worked out better.
But, alas, it took forever to get babe's rashy bottom to clear up. Poor thing. Her tush was finally looking as beautiful and pristine as a newborn baby's behind should. *cue trumpets* I was actually about to ask Sam for the diapers back because I was fiending so badly, and because I knew she had her fill and said she was done with them and had decided that no matter the savings, she just couldn't stand to use cloth diapers.
I am thrilled that I was able to help her come to that conclusion by trial and error rather than by assumption.
For those of you that know me well enough... so probably just myself here, since there's really only like 1 person that ever reads my posts, if that anyways at this point in time... I really do not like assumptions. I do my very best to avoid them. Period.

Anyways... Back to the diapers... I was about jump up and down squealing happy to have them back... :)

And I've actually finally tonight decided to stop being a lazy ass and get those new prefolds that I've had since BEFORE Aubrielle was born (now 3 months old) prepped and ready to go... Though I know it's not going to make that big of a difference because the thing that I need more of is the covers/pockets etc.
I've got the material, and patterns to sew my own... I just don't have the time, or the workspace since my machine and sewing table have become the dumping grounds for anything that is homeless within the house... Bummer... well I don't have ALL the materials, I still need a snap pliers because I can't put the snaps on by hand, and I don't care for the Velcro closure for my cloth diapers.
It is much faster and easier to get the correct size, but it totally eats everything alive in the wash machine.

ahhh... so, in all honesty, I keep rambling on and on about my diapers and that because I'm tired as all hell, and I want to go to bed, but I need to put away the leftovers from dinner... however I am too lazy and don't want to deal with it, I also have a sink piled full and then some of CLEAN dishes that need to be rinsed off yet and stacked in the drainer, and I don't want to deal with those either... not to mention all the baskets of Clean laundry that needs to be folded/hung and put away... the worst part of laundry, and the prefolds in the wash that I need to toss in the dryer and keep prepping since this is only their first wash.
ugh... I think I'll start with the diapers in the wash... and then go from there... gah...

But... speaking of tonight's leftovers... HOLY heart attack batman! Elaina asked for SECONDS! She's been on this kick of not eating... even going to bed with no dinner because she just refuses to eat, and she asked for seconds. I made meatloaf, and instant potatoes that weren't that great... (Josh really made them not so much me, I dr'd them a little, he can be a little handicapped for boxed foods, not the worst thing.) But I was/am thrilled with that. This is the first time since her being so violently ill (as was I) that she's actually eaten halfway normal for her. I am soo soooooo happy that you don't even know... I tried something a little different this time, I used a package of cornbread stuffing, threw it in the chopper to mash it extra fine and did my usual steak sauce instead of ketchup and it was pretty freaking fantastic if I do say so myself... My meatloaf is usually pretty amazing though... <3... I was a little weary of the cornbread stuffing, I saw it on Pinterest though so since I had it in the pantry I figured what the heck.
well, as much as I would rather keep dawdling and procrastinating those dreadful tasks I mentioned not wanting to do.... I really just want to get to bed and can't till all but putting the laundry away is done... though I could potentially leave the clean dishes in the sink till morning and just rinse them really well with hot water.... tempting... we shall see.

Christmas Jars

http://christmasjars.com/index.html

A link to the back story since most are probably not yet familiar with the story.
Very cute and thoughtful idea.

I saw a video interview with the author, and he said something along the lines of  " the money will only last for a little while, but those memories, they're going to remember that day for the rest of their lives"

So true.
I have just today for the first time heard about this new trend. And have never been on the receiving or giving end of this... yet. I think it is a wonderful thing to do, to teach your family to remember God's grace and generosity all year long, and to spread that love with a gift, one that there is no glory from, no Thank you, no I got this from so & so... just pure love and knowing that you made a difference, even if no one else knows it.

It reminds me of when I was a child, perhaps about 3 or 4? I am not sure how old I was, but to me it is a very similar story... Our family has always been "less fortunate" in monetary wealth. It was definitely hard at times. Very hard. Especially around Christmas I am sure for my parents.
Five kids, and rent and all the other necessities, my parents struggled that they could not afford a Christmas Tree. Trivial, and foolish to some I am sure. But it was tradition in our house to have a REAL Christmas Tree. The smell of that pine, the rustle of the needles, it was something that my parents always tried to do.
I have actually tried to do the same for my family, unfortunately with how expensive real trees have become, it is just ... sadly not likely to ever become reality in my household. Makes me sad.

But, as the author of The Christmas Jars' statement, I will never forget the day from my story here.
I couldn't tell you for sure WHAT day it was, it may have been Christmas Eve that this occurred on, forgive me, I was only 4, maybe.
But, as I said, we could not afford a tree that year, and we were all pretty bummed about it.
We were coming to terms with it.
But that morning when my parents were in the kitchen for their morning coffee, they happened to see a strange sight out the kitchen window in the back yard... A tree that certainly had not been there before, and was in fact, a gift from a stranger.
Our own little Christmas miracle.
It had snowed the night before (living in northern WI, it snowed plenty, and often) The tree most assuredly was not there the night before.
We searched for footprints, but there was none to be found... the tree had not a flake of snow on it, so it could not have been placed there before the storm had come through, so... it was even more strange to not see any foot prints in the snow... I thought for sure for years and years that my parents had come up with the money and placed the tree there themselves, but just brought it through the house and placed it out the back door while us kids were asleep...
But I have talked to them about it as an adult, and they still hold true to their having no involvement other than seeing it when they were getting their morning caffeine fix...
It was as if an Angel had hovered over that spot and made it magically appear.
No foot prints, no note, no nothing... no indication that it had been brought through the house, and no indication that footprints had been wiped away in the snow either... I am still stumped by it today over 20 years later (wow that makes me feel old) and I still remember it like it was just last Christmas, if not yesterday.
I couldn't tell you one single toy or present that myself or anyone else received that year, but the gift of that tree I will remember when I am senile.

A lesson learned early in my life, and I have always tried to carry out myself, random acts of kindness, are worth so much more than you know.  You touch the lives of those affected by it forever.
So, in conclusion, teach your family the tradition of kindness. Not just at Christmas. But always.
I can tell you from experience too, it feels just as good to be the one giving the blessing as it does receiving it.

I love that this book has started the trend of something that we as a people have long forgotten, do onto others... and that kindness isn't something that you do for kindness in return. Kindness is something that we do because it's who we SHOULD be. Always.

...

Do you find yourself wondering sometimes.... what the destination of life really is?
I do.
I like to let my mind meander about...
I wonder, if more people would just ponder, instead of worry, we'd all be a lot happier.
Life doesn't have to be a serious thing. But we all seem to make it such.
I like to do my best to keep it at least kind... As in I try to always be kind to everyone. I know there's many times I fail, and even times I outright blow that out of the water and jump into a full on tactical strike of mean-ness it seems like.
But, I like to think I do a pretty good job of being a kind person, and an even better job at teaching my children to be kind as well.
But then I also find myself wondering then, if this is the sort of person that I am, why is it that I can't seem to hold onto friends?
Or to make friends easily?
I wonder if the people I am around think that I am one of those fake shell sort of people that are sooo super sweet to your face, but really just a rotten bitch when it all boils down...
I'd like to ask them... but I don't think that people would be honest.

I don't really have a point to this post. This is all it really is, I just meandered over here to my little bloggy, and decided to start writing.

Please then folks, if you know me, leave a comment, tell me the truth. The might hurt to hear it, or warm your soul to know it truth.

And no, I am NOT one of those "everybody's gotta love me" kind of people... I just don't understand, I think I have friends, then when it comes down to it... I do, I have some amazing friends... but turns out it's just not like I thought, that I have many friends, nope... I've got 3. Sometimes a girl needs more than 3 pals.

Ick ick, sick sick...

Me and the munchkins have been disgustingly sick since Thursday. Severe diarrhea and vomiting isn't fun to begin with. But then having to be sick and watch your babies suffering too, all the while being too ill to do even so much as comfort them. Really makes ya feel like a bad momma. I had nearly 2 whole days in there where I couldn't even nurse the baby. :(
Me and the big girl still aren't back to tip top, getting there.
Thanks to Josh taking such good care of us all. And my mom coming in to help out so he didn't have to miss any more work or school.
Not too sure why we both got so violently ill... but it's all too coincidental that we both were getting better, and took some probiotic gummies I just got from Target last week... and got sick again. ... trying so so hard to remember what day we first took the vitamins, and if it was for more than one day or not, because I think it's quite likely we got ill from them...
My backside is far too pained to test that theory... I feel comfortable enough with the assumption it was them... and will be getting my money back.

Stick with what you know folks... and what I know, is that for vitamins, especially probiotics, I'm happiest with Natures Sunshine Products. They're the best there is, why do anything different?

Well, baby is done with her  'midnight snack' so I should be off to sleep now as well. Just figured I'd do a quick check in. :) night.

mom gets it

I'm in that phase of Motherhood right now, that if there's no poop in my hair, it's a hair-do...
Of course we all know the "my kids look better and more put together than I do" Phase, which is the Bigger picture of the no-poop= hair-do phase...
And there's also of course, the breastfeeding mother phase, where we try and we try to be "polite'' and modest, and keep those things tucked away and hidden from the world... and we try to nurse in private or under a cover all incognito like...
Then there comes the phase where you just have to say... "too bad world, I've got stripper boobs and you'll just have to deal with it" And stop stressing over *I can't wear this shirt around family/friends/coworkers because it's too revealing*
Chances are anyhow, they're honestly NOT going to even notice, they won't see them... Yes my dears, they ARE Ninja Boobs... those bad boys were in front of you the whole time, and the only reason you know about it now is I pointed it out/showed you a photo etc...
If you start to feel uncomfortable, like everyone is staring at your lady lumps... give your 3 y/o some sugar to create a diversion and quick find a napkin to tuck in like a bib... no one will be suspicious... promise.
Or if sugar isn't an option, just use the nearest child like a shield to protect your chesticles...

Just an ordinary Monday.

Nothing special of a day. Saw this cute cridder on my window on the way to see the Dr yet again... I swear it makes trip #6 for the last week...

All in all everyone is healthy... don't know that anyone of us is too happy lately. But thats just life. Right?

I've been stressing over not being able to go back to work, but needing to... the girls being sick/not well, the neighbors being horrible trolls, the house being messy etc etc
My stress seems to be never ending. Trying my best to let go of the stress and keep my faith and hope in the Lord. I'm terrible at that thouh.
And I know it.

Best thing thats happened... like ever, Elaina comes to me and says "Mommy, you're and excellent Mommy" and then later after that tells me " you are a good Mommy to Me''
I damn near cried I love her so much.

And he wonders why...

Wonders why I am constantly frustrated with him...
He leaves huge messes all over and disappears off to bed, to work to school... for a fishing weekend.
What do I get to do day in and day out every single day?
Feed, clothe, bathe, potty/diaper the children, tend to the dishes, the laundry and the messes. All by myself.
And get treated like somehow I should be doing better or different. Like I should be a stepford mom/wife.
Shit. Thats all I feel like saying. It is 4am after all, and I haven't slept yet.

Keeping it in order

So.. I am probably THE LEAST organized person I have ever met...
But once and again I have a few good ideas how to do a little better.
My latest duh idea is this:
Since I have kids, and they are young, and growing and growing by the millisecond, and I am beginning to lose track of what clothes fit and what doesn't anymore.. I figure it's probably helpful to keep a box/bin/tote etc in their room (or the room where they get dressed/undressed etc) for the items that are too small, and need to ether be packed away, or donated.
When I had just one child it was much easier for me to just know when I was putting laundry away what was too small and what was just right. My *Husband* can't keep track of the things that fit him, let alone any of the kids.
SO, I will be starting this right soon, and hopefully it will put an end, or at least minimize the clothes going into the drawers and closets that don't fit anymore.

If anyone else tries this, or has been doing it for years, leave a comment, and let me know how it works for you... do you use a fancied up box/tote etc? Or just a plain ol' brown box??

Say a little prayer

"Dear Lord;
Thank you for each day the sun shines. Thank you for each cloud that pours rain. Thank you for the tiny hands, that hold my heart so tight.
Thank you for their beaming smiles, brighter than any sun could shine.
And thank you for the strength you give me to dry their raining eyes.
Not a moment can pass, that I don't love my children.
Thank you Lord, for giving them to me.
I never knew what strength and love this heart was composed of, until you opened it up there in my arms to show me.
Thank you Lord for each and every breath they take, and joke they make.
Thank you for my children Lord.
You've shown me just what strength is. Being a Mother is more than I ever could have known.
It is the most wonderful, the most painful, the most stressful, the most loving, the most sleepless and I wouldn't Ever change it for anything.
I pray Dear Lord, please don't ever shake me so, by taking them away. They are my strength, and without my children, I am weak, and I am nothing.
I fear for them, and I fear for me. I don't want to live where I have to close my eyes to see their smiles.
Please Lord, keep them strong, keep them healthy, keep them safe, keep them here with me always."


*Seeing a photo of a friends Niece who just went through brain surgery breaks my heart, and makes me realize, I pray I never have to find out if I am strong enough to survive through something like that happening to my children. I pray I never know what it is like to not be able to peak in on them asleep in their beds. Or to peek in and see tubes coming out every which way.
I know you rise to any obstacle to be strong for your kids.
But there isn't a parent alive (or otherwise) that should ever wish to see their children going through something like that.
that's why I wrote that. And on that note also:

"Dear God, Please be with my friend and her family as they are going through one of the most difficult things there is in this life.
Please keep their spirits high, and show them your love and healing power in ways they did not know possible.
No parent should have to see their child suffering. Please take away that little girls pain, and put that beautiful smile back on her face.
I do not know her, or her mother, but please let them feel my love, and please let it heal them."

Introductions are nice

Hello
I'm sure that some people reading this may already know me.
But here goes my attempt at jumping into the double dutch game of blogging.
Why, I am not entirely sure yet, but I felt compelled to do so... and so here I am.

First things first:
The who, what, where and why of it all...
I am Liz. I am a mother of 2 beautiful girls, and the someday Mrs to my wonderful knight in sweaty armor.
You'll learn a lot about who I am along the way, as will I. Weather you know me personally or not.

What... what is this all about? Life... random ramblings, tidbits that I felt the need to share in a more appropriate outlet than Facebook... I'm sure there will be cookies, and crafts, and random rants about politics and lines at the supermarket.
(freebie about who I am, RANDOM. Very very random. And I wouldn't have it any other way)
The what will change from time to time, and hopefully be helpful or entertaining to others reading it.

Where... here? I suppose I could tell you that I live in Wisconsin. Lovely ice cold at 10am, then boiling hot before noon Wisconsin.

And Why... I have had a lot of life experiences already, and will every day encounter more, and I feel that I've got something in me to offer, and if I can offer it here, and help people, in any way possible, I would like to do so.
I think that if someone else can find a way to learn, heal, laugh, be inspired etc from the words I write, or the links I post. I've done something worthwhile. Even if it's just one person.
Also I always have felt that it's very therapeutic to write out what's on your mind. I've never been good at talking/speaking what's in there, and so I write.
So even if the only person who laughs, learns or heals is me, I've done something to be proud of I think.


Please ask questions. I love question. :)
And now, here we go... I will post a more full version of a who I am somewhere too I am sure. But today, I am just jumping in and figuring it all out.
Thanks for reading.
~Liz